“A good dress essential for getting success”

The people judge you with your dress .So the cloths are the essential part of the Personality.

The cloths were invented primarily for protection and covering the body parts and then later it was used for personal beautification purpose.

What a dress Describe?

The dress describes many different things. People judge you with your looks.

The dress describes your Family background, Education level, Your status and experience.

Evolution of Dress in Persons Life.

There are four steps in Persons life when he discovers the importance of dress.

Childhood and School : The first Part is childhood and School .This time period is governed by the Parents and specially the mothers of the children . There may be few children who have a different point of view about clothing from Parents but most of the children wear the cloths which their parents like.

College/ University: In this time period a major part of personality is developed and people buy cloths according to their personality, intended profession and trend.That is the time period when people start to feel good about themselves by wearing good cloths.

Professional Life and Brands: People look for branded cloths in professional life to look more official and prominent. People specially singles pay a large sum of money on brands and

Married Life: This is the time when people start getting influence from their spouse and some times this a defining moment of life when  cloths selected by the other person may ruin your personality.

Selection of Cloths

Always remember that your body type dictates your style so you must be clever in selecting cloths. If words do not match with the picture then there is a problem. A branded or expensive cloth does not mean that it suits you as ‘ cloths  do not carry a man , but a man carries the cloths’.

The selection of cloths depends on different things like what color suits you?, what kind of body you have?, and What is your profession?

Clothing as Investment.

Expensive or branded cloths may be a good option in a way that these types of cloths do not change shape or color in couple of washes so if you buy such cloths then they might remain in shape in next two years so the cost is divided on numbers of days you wear the cloths may cost you much cheaper rather than ordinary cloths.

Finally by choosing the right cloths for you will not only boost your confidence but it will also have deep impact in your relationships. People will have a better and positive response for you. 

Remember “Your attitude determines your altitude” so wearing good dress will make you feel better about yourself and also others and It may also help you to change your attitude towards everything.

We are sometimes bound because of money and social pressure because we have to compromise at every step of life but for successful people, this pressure is not a hurdle in their way because they have learned the art of compromising.

People from developed countries are often blamed that they have little care and love for the relations especially family relations so they do not compromise but what I learned from my experience from international travel that these people know the art of planning and spending quality time.They must have compromised on lots of things but they know who to find the happiness.  I saw a couple from the UK who were crawling with their toddler and their happiness and excitement actually amazed me.

We take compromise as a problem and it seems that it wastes lots of time and it is a hurdle in life but actually making a compromise saves relations and it has a lot of importance too.

There is a famous saying “The only constant thing in life is the change “.

There are so many things in life to which we have to compromise like relations, jobs, and health. We can’t change them straight away but we can make them better by making little compromises.

Making a Compromise does not mean to cancel the proceedings but it means to make a plan to do it on some better time or better way. You are not supposed to compromise on your dreams but make a better plan and set a time frame to get your dreams.

If you are making a compromise for your health, job ,business or relation then do not constantly compromising on them but make a change by planning and bringing quality in in your relationship, foods, fitness, and skills. Make every time a quality time. Live in present and plan for future.

The Exercise for Compromise

The first step is to consider the area of conflict. Select all these ideas with which you are comfortable and also mention the ideas in which you are not comfortable.

The second step is to consider your ideas with your needs and values.

The third step is to discuss this idea with your partner, supervisor or doctor and reach a conclusion which is comfortable for you and fits according to your needs and values.

The Exercise of Compromise will make you find out the best situation or action, which is most flexible for you to do. Be advised that the discussion must not be done in any stress. Select a  certain time for the discussion and this will make the discussion more meaningful and result oriented.

It means that to become a high achiever you must have clear goals. But besides clear goals, you also need to have some other qualities to achieve these goals.

Set Objective
The High achievers always have a clear objective. The first step in becoming a high achiever is to set the main objective and then you must make a roadmap to reach your objective. This roadmap must include small goals with the time frame.

Set Specific Rules
Setting rules for your life are as important as setting your objectives. You must set up a daily schedule, work domain and rules.You achieve your objectives you need to follow the rules

Develop Discipline and consistency
To achieve your objectives you must have discipline and consistency. It means you need to follow the roadmap and should never show laziness, rescheduling of goals or break the rules.

Educate yourself
“Education is not limited to degrees and University but it is a process of learning which continues for whole life”
Education includes formal education, technical education, on job training and even day to day learning which includes social, moral and intellectual learning.
You must be always willing to learn positive attitude and better habits. To become a high achiever you must be hungry to learn

Vision to plan the future
Vision is a power of anticipating the future. You must have the vision which others don’t see. Your vision is directly related to your willingness to achieve the objective. This willingness is the power of anticipating the future.

Vision also means that you have a big dream and your focus is on success and you know what result is about to come. So being a high achiever you must have a vision.
Be always willing to fight
All the high achiever are a fighter. They are real heroes of life.

Take the Calculative risk
To become a high achiever you need to take the calculative risk. All the high achiever take the calculative risk.

Say yes to your dreams
All the high achievers in life have dreams and they work consistently to achieve their dreams.If you have a dream then say yes and set it to your objective and work hard and consistently to make your dreams come true.

Convince yourself
High achiever can convince themselves to follow the road map of life. To be among the high achievers, you need to convince yourself that you can do it as you are the only person who wants the change.

Able to Take Mental and Physical pressure
High achievers can work under pressure. You must be ready to take mental and physical pressure to achieve your objective.

Try try again
If you fail at any step of life then do not lose hope and try try again to achieve your goal

Free yourself with possibility blindness
To be among the high achiever you must be free of possible blindness.It means that you can see the opportunities that are all around you with the firm belief that everything is possible.

Be heart and hard worker
To become a high achiever You need to do very work with your heat then you will automatically become a hard worker.

Never make excuse
High achieve never make excuse as they believe that Excuses are lies, so never make excuses life.
Believe in accomplishment
You must believe that you can accomplish your objective

You must aim High
“ If you want to shine like a star then be among the stars“.It means that you must aim high as nothing is impossible.That is how you can control your life.

Develop better Communication skills
To become a high achiever you must have good communication skills to convey your message. These communication skills include your verbal and written skills.

Stay ahead of Technology
Being a high achiever you need to use the technology that others do not use.
Be good learners
You must learn from every aspect of your life. You must also learn from mistakes.

Be a good listener
You must be a good listener as you might find something worthwhile from other.
Develop power of attraction
Expect for good. It means that you need to expect that some good is coming to your way. You must be optimistic about future. Power of attraction means focusing on positive things. If you concentrate on good things then some good will come to you.

Build relationships
You need to build a good relationship not only with your family but also in society. These relationships also include professional relationships.

Have less expectation
You must expect less expectation from other people.
“You must keep your expectation low from people as it will make your life much easier”

You must have patience
“ Great works require patience “. To become high achiever you must have patience.
Know your skills
You must know about your skills. Skills build your confidence.

Never give up
High achiever never loses hope. You must never give up whatever the situation is and keep on trying until you achieve your goal.

Always act on time
Making appropriate action on time will make you efficient and being a high achiever you must always act on time.
Be master of your work
You must get the excellence and perfection in your work. Being a high achiever you must master your work.

Take care of your self
Your performance is directly related to your health. So you need a health plan to follow. Take care of your mental and physical health

This article will help you to organize your life for the better change and also to achieve your goals.

Physical Appearance

Physical appearance is all about how do you look like.

Always remember  “First impression is the last expression”.

People judge you by your looks

People from Every profession and every social class have specific looks, so For better personal appearance, you need to go with the trends.

“There is a difference between uniqueness and Fashion”  So be very selective

The personal appearances include your hair cut, hair color, makeup, perfume, dressing, and shoes.

The physical appearance also includes your personal hygiene. cleaning of nails, eyes, ears, nose, and skin are all included in personal hygiene.

Health Plan

Your performance is directly related to your health. So you need a health plan to follow. You need to quit smoking, unhealthy foods, and drinks. An organized Health plan and diet will bring a better change in your life. Health plan includes physical and mental health as the healthy mind is as important as the healthy body. You must make a diet plan to eat real and natural food. Do your shopping at farmer market and cook the food.

Family Ties/ Relations

Family ties have a great impact on your life. Life is too fast. People usually have less time to spend with their family.The gap creates many problems in Family life and relations. Now to organize your relationship and bridge the gap in Family relationships a proper plan is required. You may better plan your weekends. You can even make your weekdays better. Instead of watching TV and news you can spend some time with your family and children.

Speech and Language

Speech and language are very important in your life. Good Speech and Language can earn you better relationships and connections. Loose language can make your life worst.

There is a saying “your words becomes your reality”

If you use positive words at home and work then this will start affecting your daily routine and it will give you a proper mindset to perform better in life and achieve your goals.

Friends and Friendships

Friends are very important in life. They are very helpful and give you lot of motivation. But sometimes you meet people who are energy drainers. They may be your close friends who do not have a good experience and they give you negative suggestion.  You need to be very selective in making friends. You also need to make sure that you give only a specific time to your friends without disturbing your family and work.

Work

The work includes your job either as Employee or employer. Some people do not like their work but due to the social or economic pressure, they have to do it.

I say “Every work must be done in organized way to produce the desired result”

Every work requires a specific education, knowledge, and skill.If you do not fit the requirement of the work then either you must develop the skill and knowledge or quit and do something else which fits your skills and education.

Besides skills, the work requires your full attention and time. Once you are at work just clear your mind with all the problems and concentrate on work.

Time Table

You need to make a timetable to organize and maximum use of your time. The timetable must include the details of your sleeping hours, Working hours, schedule of your breakfast, lunch, and dinner, a schedule for family and friends, leisure time and shopping time.

Believe me, if you make a timetable and stick to the schedule then it will revolutionize your life.

Priority setting

The priority setting is very important in making your life better. Always write the works which need priority like utility and credit card bills, important meetings and medical checkups.You can put grocery and shopping on second priority and entertainment on third priority. Remember if you are free from other two priorities then you can enjoy your free time much better.

Consistency

Consistency is the major factor in making your life better. If you practice for some or all the things mentioned in the article then it is good but if you do things with consistency then you can make your life excellent.

Energy and passion

Live your life with energy and passion. Always remember if you have a lot of time and no energy then the time you have is of no use. To maximize your energy level you need to first make sure that you sleep properly as your periods of sleep improves your concentration and maintain sugar levels.

The other thing is to go to bed early and get up early in the morning.Always remember to stop using a cell phone, watching tv or using a laptop  at least one hour before you go to bed. You must also drink fresh water once you wake up in the morning as it also has a good impact on your body.Also, do some exercise to have a better flow of blood in your body.

You need to be happy and lively. There are always some people around you who are depressed, lazy and they talk negatively. These people drain energy from you. The people may include some of your friends, people in your office or even family. All the people who make you depressed and talk negatively are emotional vampires, so try to avoid all these kinds of people.

Change in Behavior.

You need to change in behavior and approach towards people.If you speak loud and you feel angry if people do not corporate with you then You must control your anger. No one is your enemy.He might be against some of your ideas but not you. Do not take things personally. If your tone is too soft and people misuse your lenient behavior then you need to change your tone and behavior.

Tune your Minds (3 second Formula)

We hesitate to do new things and even the things we do in routine like we set to alarm at 6 am and we get up at 6:30 am.Now to avoid this we can tune our minds to a three-second formula. Once you listen to the alarm you count 1 2 3 and get up.Basically, once you count the numbers your conscious mind will stop the traffic from the subconscious mind. Because as a habit you do not get up on time and to change you need to interrupt your habit. It only takes 3 seconds to put your intention into action. Basically, your brain helps you to create it as a habit.

Time Organization

“Time is money “ means that you must use your time carefully like you spend money.

You must make a timetable and a day planner. Put all the important tasks in your planner. Also, make a daily schedule. To save more time use a Digital calendar and day planner.

Instead of doing everything on your own You must also delegate work duties to other people.

You also need to reward yourself some extra time for leisure.

Organizing Space

Mess makes lots of mental stress. Make it a habit to organize your office and work desk in routine. You must also organize your kitchen in routine and check for old and expired goods.

Closet organization is also an important factor as a lot of time is wasted in finding clothes for work and home. So organize your closet space and select the clothes for the whole week.

Most important thing is to clear your space. You must donate all the unused or old clothes before you buy new clothes.

Money Management

Money management is the most important thing in organizing your life for a better change. Earning money is not important but the way you spend it really matters. You can put your earned money in three portions including tax, business/work, and home portions. You must only use the money for the specific purpose and that is how you can get the best money management. You can use a home money management application. You need to write all the essential expenses, daily expenses, and entertainment expenses and use the money accordingly.

Organize your stuff

You must keep one checking your stuff including electrical devices and books.If you do not use them then donate them. You must also keep cleaning your home and arrange furniture as it allows energy to flow easily and it will bring a very healthy change in you.

Most of us believe “Inspirations are for Strangers”

We must know “what are we capable of”

Self-motivation is basically a desire to achieve something valuable. Self-motivation is a challenge to our capability.

A lot of people have come in this world with skills and abilities and they have gone unnoticed. This has happened with them because they have never discovered about their skills and abilities, they never pay attention, they have never tried to develop the skills, they have never challenged their limits and they have also never believed.

Before you move the keys to self-motivation you must know about your mental attitude for you and your life. You must consider your physical appearance, health, and fitness. You must consider if your job and career gives you happiness and inspiration or does it gives you stress.You must know about your relationships with family, friends and other people.

You must know what do you do when you are tired, bored and powerless.

You must know that this life is a gift from God and what difference are you making to this world and what gift are you going to return to your God.

Keys to Self-Motivation

Living Your life with energy & Passion

The first thing to self-motivation is to live your life with energy and passion. you must be lively, happy and you must have a smiling face .you must avoid people who are depressed and especially the people we call  “emotional vampires“.These people may include some of your friends, people in your office or family. All the people who make you depressed and talk negatively are emotional vampires, so try to avoid all these kinds of people.

Develop your self

You must invest energy in yourself and you do not fall prey to your negative thinking.You stop thinking that you can do it do not get settle for less than what you deserve. Always remember that your personal and professional development is your own responsibility. You must develop your personality and personal appearance. you must also develop your mental attitude. You must develop better relationships with your friends and family. Develop better and healthy habits.

Develop  a Health Plan

Another important factor for self-motivation is to develop your health plan because your performance in this world is directly related to your health.Basically, this is the only vehicle which will carry you to journey of life. You cannot perform  well according to your abilities without proper health

 Keep Working on Yourself.

It is the ability of humans that we can adapt any changes so you must bring change in your life you must read books .you must read about successful people and listen to their stories with total believe.if you do this exercise in the morning then this is the best time when your subconscious mind is very much present

Be Ready for Failures

You must work with dedication, fearlessly and relentlessly but always remember that you should be ready for failures.

Never stop believing

Most of the people look for ideal situations in their lives as they believe at certain time and situation they are going to get their desired results but you must not look for Ideal situations and you must do all your efforts .you must not care what you are and what you have at right time you need to believe  in your efforts to see it.

Do what makes you happy

You must know what makes you very happy you should write all the stuff on a paper as it will become a part of your subconscious mind.Do all the activities what makes you happy and keep this  and exercises in motion

Keep Motivating yourself

You must keep on motivating yourself .you must always tell yourself that you can do it .you must avoid the negative conversations.

There is a saying “ I am afraid that I am afraid not to do”

Give Yourself a Break

Another factor for motivation is to take a break from daily routine so this will enable you to think about yourself. It is also going to affect your thinking patterns very positively

Over smart your brain

Our brain always magnifies problems and we hesitate to do things which are against our mindset. The best way to deal the situation is to over smart your brain. You can tune up your mind. You can program your mind to change your habits and daily routine. The change in your mind can achieve you your desired objectives.

Concentrate and focus on your work

Self-Motivation also requires you to increase your concentration on your work. You need to concentrate and pay attention to get the work done. Make it a Habit to concentrate and pay attention and never lose concentration until the work is done.

There is a great saying “ If  life gets Blurry Adjust your focus”

No Excuses

There is a saying  “Excuses are lies”.

Never use excuses.There is No place for excuses in your life.

Positive Thinking

Always be positive and optimistic about the future. Always expect that something good is coming to you. The positive thinking will take you through any difficult situations.

“Positive thinking has a great power of achieving impossible”

Help Other People

I always say “Success is not about how much money you make but success is how many lives you can improve “

You must take some time off from your work and help other people without expecting any return.

Anger is a strong emotion which overcomes the heart and mind. A person who is angry loses his thinking and understanding.

When the person is angry and he faces a situation then his actions and intentions are controlled by the anger and actually, the anger is controlling the situation.

When a person is angry, he keeps a distance from the other person in his heart because he’s angry and his voice gets very loud because he is intentionally keeping the distance from the other person in his heart. His voice is loud because he wants to give the other person a very strong message.

Anger is basically a very powerful emotion but during the anger, a person loses his analytical and logical processing.

There is a great science about anger that  1 minutes and anger  you lose 60 seconds of happiness

Anger is a strong emotion so it has a lot of energy so we can channelize this energy. There are some people who have less impact of anger on them these peoples includes the lawyers, teachers, and doctors

Why the anger occur?

Anger is caused by many reasons these reasons include social problems health problems frustration expectations,  irritation by other people believes, criticism, financial problems, work problems marital life problems and even understanding the problem. Anger signifies a weak personality.

When Things are not done according to your plan you feel angry when you are deprived of love and care when you have lot of questions but no answer it makes you angry

Anger is also a very intelligent thing and you put on anger on some person who doesn’t respond we put blame on others so it becomes a reason for our anger .we look for victims. A change of state is required to defuse anger.

Anger is a strong emotion so it has a lot of energy so we can channelize this energy. There are some people who have less impact of anger on them these peoples includes the lawyers’ teachers and doctors

What worse anger can do with you.

Anger can cause health issues like migraines and headaches. Anger also disturbs immunity systems.Anger can also increase your blood pressure which can result in a risk of heart attacks. Anger is an emotional reaction but it also has an impact on your physical reaction. In case if you are angry then you facial expression may change, the muscles of your body may stiffen and you grit your teeth as well.

Anger Management Keys 

Do not take anger Personally!

All of us have many problems and issues in our lives. But if someone says you anything which you do not like then do not assume that it is a personal attack.If something is said to you or someone shows anger to you then do not take it personally. Once you learn not to take things personally, it becomes your strong point. It improves your personality and public dealings. 

Control Your Voice.

Our minds magnify the problems and boost our anger. Once we are angry our voice gets very loud because we want to keep a distance from the other person to show our anger and we also want to give the other person a very strong message.

If something is said to you or some person shows his anger to you that we should keep our voice low. This is a key factor as it also helps to defuse the tension. Lowing the voice may also help other angry people to think logically.

Learn for letting thing go

We are in a habit of making our plans and assume that the things will happen according to our plan and expectations and we are attached to our views. It is very hard for us for letting things go as it is against our Ego.  We must always remember that if things do not go according to our expectations then we must learn for letting things go.

Live in Present

Some people are in the habit of keep recalling the incident that made them Angry. Since it is an unproductive activity so try to let go of the past incident and live in Present

Control Your Language to avoid Anger

There is a saying “Extreme Words drive extreme feelings”

Anger is one of the strongest feelings. These feelings of anger become extreme once we use negative Words like always, Never Etc. The negative words drive anger bigger.

Use better arguments once you talk to avoid and control anger.

In any situation, we must use Words very carefully. Words are a very powerful weapon. Words can be very painful too, so a selection of Words plays an important role to avoid anger.

 The balance between Need and Wants to control your anger.

There are only a few things in our lives that are our real needs and all other are our wants. We should distinguish between our real needs and wants and that is how Our lives will become simple and easier. Anger emerges when we cant’s get things we want.

You must know your body needs to Avoid and control Anger

Feelings grow extreme when you are stressed, overly heated, tired or Hungry so to avoid anger you must know your body needs. Our minds make a story of reaction which matches how our body feels.

 Be Expressive to avoid and control Anger

This means that you must learn how to express what really going on with you. If you are hungry and tired and you need to discuss something with someone then you must say that I need some time to relax and fulfill my body needs. Always remember that during a discussion  the More mindful you are, the more likely you will be able to express yourself rightly.

Active lifestyle

Regular physical exercise and participation in Games can help you decompress and burn off extra tension.It also reduces stress and strain which most of the people have.

Imagination

Visualizing a relaxing experience from imagination or from memory can significantly reduce anger and release stress.

TuneUp your mind

One of the best ways to avoid anger is to Tune Up your mind and change the way you Think

Exercise for Anger Management

Deep Berating

Take a deep breath and close your eyes and assume nothing bad has happened.

Brisk Walking

Walking is a physical activity or exercise that lowers stress hormones. It is a great way to improve agility and  a way to stay in shape

Brisk Walking for twenty minutes will ease your mind.

Yoga and Aerobic Activity

Exercise including Yoga Aerobic Activity( Skipping Rope) helps you to shift focus to the physical aspect and burns off excess energy.

Games (Football and Boxing)

Football and Boxing These two games are the best sports to release your tension and avoid anger as each time you hit or kick it will burn all the excess energy and makes you relax.

Exercise Good Smile and good Mood

A key to avoiding anger and stress is to exercise smile and  Good mood.

 sports with team Work

Teams sports games like basketball, baseball volleyball, and cricket also help to release tension and anger